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Teri Hatcher Sexually Abused, The Lessons
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Teri Hatcher pic Teri Hatcher was sexually abused at the age of 5 by an uncle, as she reveals in the April edition of Vanity Fair. Hatcher joins the one in three women who suffer sexual abuse before the age of 18. The actress was afraid to talk about the abuse until now, when her uncle had been arrested and charged with three counts of molestation. One of them under a 14-year-old victim of her uncle, Richard Hayes Stone, had committed suicide by shooting herself.
Hatcher not only helped convict her abuser for victimizing another woman; she’s now an inspiration to the more than 60 million sexual abuse survivors among us.

Hatcher said, “I was just blown over by this girl’s pain. I thought, Boy, that’s really close to being me. Any day of the week, I could feel that sort of pain. I haven’t tried to kill myself, but I’ve certainly thought about it, and then I feel guilty about thinking about it, because what’s so terrible about my life?”

One of the worst tragedies of sexual abuse is the isolation it brings to those who suffer it. Sexual abuse is so often kept a secret. Victims blame themselves at the time of the abuse. Their sense of isolation and self-blame often carries over into adulthood.

Teri was abused for about two years, since she was five till she was seven. Like Hatcher, most know the perpetrator, whether it’s a relative or a family friend.Children often fear consequences for themselves or their families if they confide in someone. Or they accept the abuser’s threats that no one will believe them. It can be a very confusing experience, especially if the child or the child’s family was close to the person committing the abuse.

Problems with adult relationships, depression, substance abuse, eating disorders and self-mutilation are all documented effects of childhood sexual abuse. However, the longer the abuse remains a secret, the more damaging it may be. When you’re sexually abused, your sexuality and intimacy get intertwined with all of those feelings you experienced during the abuse: guilt, shame, fear and ambivalence. It’s never too late; confiding in someone at any point can be incredibly healing, the earlier you get help, the lesser the impact the abuse may have on your developing personality, your ability to trust and your adult sexuality.

Most men and women with women sexual abuse histories say they always felt “different.” Instead, you start to think you’re a bad person, as a child, you almost begin to wonder if you’re making it all up — or if what’s happening to you is not a bad thing. It’s the insidious strategy of an abuser. He makes you feel that something is wrong with you for the inappropriate behavior he is inflicting (most sexual abusers are men).

“Without Teri, this case would have been dismissed”, the Santa Clara County deputy district attorney who was the sex crimes prosecutor against Hatcher’s uncle, Chuck Gillingham said, “I have so much respect for what she did. This is a person who had nothing to gain and a lot to lose.”

Working through these feelings in therapy will help you begin to see that it wasn’t your fault and it wasn’t anything about you that caused the abuse in the first place. You tackle the bad memories as an adult and do something you weren’t able to as a child: put the blame where it belongs.Though the process may be painful, a skilled therapist can take you back to those powerful childhood feelings of helplessness and confusion.

Studies show that just 3 percent to 5 percent of sexual abuse allegations are false. More than anything, as parents, friends and teachers, we must believe a child when he or she tells us that something is wrong. Let’s give our children the best chance at a happy, healthy adult life by taking them seriously.

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